tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4144782505755753687.post2484793975224995485..comments2010-11-16T14:54:19.593-08:00A Los Angeles Lovehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15082554090481175349noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4144782505755753687.post-16463072461272633342010-11-16T14:54:19.593-08:002010-11-16T14:54:19.593-08:00Beautiful post.birdswithbrainshttp://birdswithbrains.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4144782505755753687.post-40633120615433420152010-08-12T13:33:11.827-07:002010-08-12T13:33:11.827-07:00Fantastic post. This is actually a point that was made at our pre-cana retreat before the wedding. A couple who&#39;d been married 50 years said that love is a decision, whether it&#39;s a good day or a bad day, you decide to love one another and make life-giving decisions, and sometimes sacrifices, to nurture that love and relationship. It&#39;s not always flowers and rainbows and steak dinners, it&#39;s finding peace and comfort with someone who understands you and loves you at your very worst and best. <br /><br />I love reading your blog. Thank you for writing it.Shannonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04100053690658823780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4144782505755753687.post-78290390262047679712009-11-20T21:26:43.202-08:002009-11-20T21:26:43.202-08:00Great post. Totally with you on love being a choice.Miss Thttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03367631935043016430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4144782505755753687.post-9937094345257456602009-11-05T12:32:39.737-08:002009-11-05T12:32:39.737-08:00So true. Its tough letting someone see you when your not at your best. But letting someone in, for better or worse, just makes the bond stronger.buhdoophttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13603656839270996091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4144782505755753687.post-31958199096355343212009-11-04T17:00:37.869-08:002009-11-04T17:00:37.869-08:00My brother, who is a brilliant psychologist but that&#39;s beside the point, made this toast at my sister&#39;s wedding. &quot;When in doubt, choose in the direction of love.&quot;LPChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18209861350905135093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4144782505755753687.post-20507719596517105302009-11-03T17:08:51.255-08:002009-11-03T17:08:51.255-08:00Great post. Love is a decision. Such a powerful and true statement.The Professional Bridesmaidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10276075762993940219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4144782505755753687.post-23466373104317270162009-11-03T15:39:13.566-08:002009-11-03T15:39:13.566-08:00*Claps*<br />This is a great post and I&#39;m glad you shared it. Love definitely feels different now at 26 than when we met at 19. I had a lot more questions back then about love and relationships, mostly of the &quot;ohmygodhowcanIlivewithouthim&quot; kind of love. I&#39;m glad I&#39;ve made it this far and have found a life partner. <br />I gotta find that bell hooks book now.Mohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07021751664110443351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4144782505755753687.post-4913138081559277882009-11-03T14:13:22.327-08:002009-11-03T14:13:22.327-08:00yes this is something i&#39;ve learned. it seems like we decide if someone is right for us, if their good qualities outweigh also putting up with their bad qualities, and it&#39;s a very personal decision that no one can make for you because what works for one couple might not work for another.Julia (Color Me Green)http://www.blogger.com/profile/00570876113939066775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4144782505755753687.post-60506296558014456432009-11-03T14:00:45.896-08:002009-11-03T14:00:45.896-08:00I totally relate to so many thoughts in your post. I could easily copy and paste this onto my own blog and switch out the names :) Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I often tell people that for the first time in my life, I feel like I have a truly &#39;healthy&#39; relationship. There&#39;s no other way I can best describe it. So happy for you and J and wishing you good health soon.Born to be Mrs. Beeverhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10186370322714278012noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4144782505755753687.post-17095583534250365532009-11-03T13:32:07.271-08:002009-11-03T13:32:07.271-08:00this post resonated with me immensely. mike and i have been through a lot, as you know. our love for each other at 20 years old was completely different than it is now at 26 or even what it was two years ago at age 24. i understand part of that was growing up and dealing with the change that comes in our crazy 20&#39;s. two years ago, i feel like we were given a second chance to really understand what our love is and what it means to be a truly devoted partner to one another. it was a choice - it was a decision - one that i know we made with a clear head (this time around). and i&#39;m so thankful for it - because knowing for sure that your partner is going to be your LIFE partner, is the best feeling in the world. <br /><br />thanks for this post. and glad you&#39;re starting to feel a little better. it&#39;s nice J was able to be home with you through all the grossness ;)Bowie Bridehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14919507519237710152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4144782505755753687.post-61248491085602328692009-11-03T13:20:29.279-08:002009-11-03T13:20:29.279-08:00Dude, you should really read bell hooks&#39; all about love (which you may remember we used for one of our readings in our ceremony); very much about this love as a decision thing. Very powerful stuff to think about, and I agree, very centering when things are hard. Wishing you the best and a speedy recovery!accordionsandlacehttp://accordionsandlace.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.com