Monday, October 11, 2010

Lemonade and Lemons

The last month or so has been a roller coaster emotional adventure. We kicked bum to get ready for vacation. We blissed out on our vacation. We were welcomed back from vacation with some rudely deposited cat poop, broken glass, horrifyingly impossible-to-conquer to-do lists, and a very difficult decision. If I've been a little silent these last few weeks, please know that it's because we've been grappling with huge news that is going to entirely reshape our lives and (oh shoot) our wedding. We are ecstatic and completely terrified, all at once. 

First, the amazing, jump on the bed and cheer, run around the apartment dancing news: Jason has a new job! And it's not just any old job, it's his dream job at his dream company, doing his dream work. And they headhunted him after finding his comments on a music industry blog. (Seriously, that's how he hit their radar. Maybe all that time commenting on wedding blogs could actually pay off? Hahahahahaha.) We are giddy, both about the job itself and the amazing boost in pride and confidence, especially so soon after last year's soul-crushing layoff.

Next, the slightly terrifying part of that wonderful news: holy cr*p, this is an all-encompassing job. It's the sort of start up company where everyone works late and lives with their iphones permanently attached to their hands. Unfortunately, I already have one of those all-encompassing jobs. So we're in the process of reconfiguring everything now: who does the cooking, the cleaning, the shopping, and (gulp) how we actually take care of this down-to-the-wire wedding planning stuff over the next few months. Especially because both of us have huge, career-changing, incredibly exciting projects that are launching in April... right when we're getting married. So, even though we technically have about six months until the wedding, realistically, we only have about three. I just put together our first official wedding to-do list and EEEEEEEEEEK. I wish we could register for free time.

Lastly, the EFF ME terrifying part of this wonderful news: the sudden and unexpected disappearance of 1/3 of our wedding budget. Yes, you read that correctly: our wedding budget just lost a VERY substantial chunk, and we're scrambling. Although Jason is getting a higher salary now, we'd been planning to finance the wedding with the bonus from his last job. But his dream opportunity arrived without any flexibility on the start date and just six scant weeks before his bonus. As hard as it was to wave goodbye to one third of our wedding budget (sniff), you don't turn down dreams for bonuses. Instead, you readjust, refocus on why you're planning a wedding celebration to begin with, get even more brutal with cost decisions, and thank every deity you know that you've been relatively frugal throughout this process.

So, because this has been a few weeks of lemons and lemonade, of champagne and smooth whiskey to still shaking hands, and of dreams fulfilled and new emerging doubts, I thought I'd end this post with a toast. To life and all the strange turns it takes. To double edged opportunities and the raw hope of future joy. To passionate blog discussions and the happenstance that emerges from them. And to luck and love and the reminding ourselves that it will all work out in the end, even if we have no idea freaking idea how.

So cheers, as I raise a glass of our favorite Vodka Mint Lemonade, which feels appropriate, given the occasion. 

Vodka Mint Lemonade:
  • 1 cup (packed) mint leaves, chopped
  • 2/3 cup sugar
  • 1 cup fresh lemon juice
  • 1 1/2 cups vodka
  • Crushed ice
  • Fresh mint sprigs
Combine chopped mint and sugar in large bowl. Stir in lemon juice and vodka. Cover and refrigerate for at least 30 minutes and up to 2 hours to let flavors really combine. Strain mixture into pitcher. Fill six 6- to 8-ounce glasses with crushed ice. Pour mixture over. Garnish with mint sprigs. Enjoy. Enjoy a lot. 

25 comments:

  1. congrats on the new job and your vodka lemonade sounds innnnnncredible.

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  2. for his dream job: congrats! cheers for choices we make!

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  3. Congratulations to Jason on his new job. And you know this, but you guys will be fine - these things have a way of working themselves out. You have the strength and the super planning abilities to get through.

    My dad lost his job six weeks before my parents' wedding. They cancelled everything they could and still had an amazing time. And most importantly, they're still happily married now, 28 years later. They reminisce about how everyone pulled round to help them, and what a great party it was.

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  4. Congrats to Jason on his new job - it is, no matter what the setbacks, always so great to finally get one's dream job that I am sure he is floating on air (the long hours and married-to-an-iphone thing don't sound so good, but then not even dream jobs are perfect.)

    I guess one bright side is that not having the time to do something means that not having the money to do it doesn't matter, and vice versa - what does it matter that you don't have the money if you don't have the time? :)

    I am sure you'll pull through and with the great job you are doing so far, even if a lot of stuff gets cut back, it'll still be fantastic.

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  5. hot damn - good for you guys!! that is AMAZING!!

    and as for the budget crisis...we hit a similar hurdle when I got in a car accident and totaled my car a month or so before the wedding - we had to buy a new one. I was straight trippin' for weeks about it all - and then, like magic, our wedding came and we didn't care about the money anymore. We were terribly practical with our choices, didn't ask for money from our parents, and though we basically had to financially start over when we relocated to the east coast immediately after our wedding - I don't think we would have done it any other way.

    The stress of the wedding budget will go away. It will. I didn't think it would - but it will.

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  6. Hooray new job! And I love that you are such a fantastic reminder of where priorities should be placed.

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  7. Huge congrats to Jason, what amazing news!! I am sure the budget stuff will work out, you're both smart and creative and capable. (If it were Friday, I'd say "you f*cking rule.")

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  8. Congrats!!! The roller coaster is a great metaphor...scary as all git out (a nice little Southern phrase I learned from a friend from South Carolina) but I bet this will be an unbelievably transformative and thrilling time of life. :)

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  9. Congratulations all around! I love that you have (what I consider to be) the right attitude - you don't give up dreams for bonuses. Very true! The wedding will still be great because you know what's important. Continued success to you guys!

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  10. Congrats to Jason! The renegotiating housework stuff tends to sort itself out, but I've been worrying about it because if (wait... when?) I get a job I am sure that we will go through the same "why isn't there food and why is nothing clean!?" phase. But it will be a small price to pay.

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  11. Congrats to Jason! The one thing I really want to work back into our budget is funds for a cleaning person to come once every couple of weeks to solve the chores dilemma for us.

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  12. Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!! So excited for you!!

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  13. Big Congratulations to Jason! How amazing to be head-hunted for your dream job. As for the rest, I know you'll both figure it out.

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  14. Yay Jason! Totally worth a little budget readjustment. You'll figure it out, Becca!

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  15. Congratulations to Jason! This is sooo exciting and I am so happy for him and for you. I know exactly how it feels to chase your dream and what that means you might have to give up.

    Perhaps we should both put out craigslist ads for wealthy benefactors. j/k

    You guys will make it work, because you are both smart, resourceful, and driven folks. It's going to be hard, but I know you can do it. And if it helps, know that we are in the same boat as you guys.

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  16. Yay for having a new cool job! I'm sure that it will work itself out and now with a tighter budget you might actually cut out some stuff that would've not been worth the investment. I had a random LA related vendor question- do you have any recommendations for an alterations/seamstress? I tried on the dress this weekend and it needs some adjustments. So ready for the dress stress to be over.

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  17. Congratulations to Jason! That is wonderful, and hooray for blogs!
    Totally worth it to cut the budget to be doing what he loves.

    And I totally know what it feels like to watch the apartment/grocery shopping/errands fall apart. Sometimes we wade through our laundry in order to get to the bed. Hang in there!

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  18. Congrats, Jason!!! Becca, you two kids are on a roll! (A fast-forward kind of roll). Enjoy the ride! Drink it in ... and not just in the form of vodka mint lemonade!

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  19. Congratulations to Jason's new gig! That is so fantastic that he got his dream job! Thought it's crazy kooky now, everything happens for a reason (even throw a wrench into things timing). Enjoy, just like I'm gonna enjoy that vodka mint lemonade!

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  20. What a stressed, blessed, insane, exciting, maddening, joyous, impossible, promising time in your lives right now! Congrats to Jason and my condolences on the loss of your budget. There is perhaps no better a time than now to lean on friends and family who offer their help. Good wishes on you both!

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  21. cheers to all of that! lemons and lemonade, for sure. congrats to jason on the new gig!

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  22. Aw. You guys are awesome! I've been a mess about all the scary budget stuff and everybody here is just so positive about the great stuff. It makes it better somehow. And I know so many of you have negotiated the budget stress too, so we're in good, wise company.

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  23. Congrats to Jason - how awesome that they found him via a blog comment! And cheers to you, for jumping into this with him so wholeheartedly.

    You guys will rock whatever budget you have - and when the wedding's over, it will be no less memorable or special for costing 1/3 less, I promise. And even more than one day, you'll remember the way you guys made it through this exciting/crazy time together.

    "To life and all the strange turns it takes. To double edged opportunities and the raw hope of future joy."

    I'll definitely raise my glass to that!!

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  24. Here's to you and Jason both! Achieving your dreams can be scary even without side effects on plans that you've laid out, I think. Bravo to you both for taking the leap.

    Also thank you for the comment on my blog post about our engagement photos--it did make me feel a bit better to hear again from you about also having a body image freakout when first seeing your photos. Hearing other people's undistorted and complimentary judgments on the photos does make me feel better, and I'm glad seeing more of Kelly's work continues to make you feel excited! She actually mentioned you in an email today, something about hanging out in LA for a few days afterwards. Sounds like an awesome time.

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  25. ok- freaking out is totally natural right now! so much at once...all kinds of good run around the apartment and jump on the bed stuffs. no bonus- boo to that but try to remind yourself, it's not dreams vs business, it's dreams vs dreams. Congrats to Jason! I promise all of the moving and shaking parts inside of you will settle soon and until you feel grounded again, there is always vodka. ;-)

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