Wednesday, August 4, 2010

Becoming Family

We started marriage classes last night. And this weekend, we're finally going to transition Jason from his cell phone plan with his parents to my cell phone plan. A family plan for our new family. 

Sometimes, it's the little things that are truly huge.

12 comments:

  1. truly.

    when we opened a joint bank account, i spent the whole day screaming, "AAAHH, that check has BOTH OUR NAMES. aaaaahhh!!"

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  2. @Liz - I did the same thing!

    We opened a joint bank account, combined our phone plans (turns out it didn't save us any $$, but, oh well), got the "married" car insurance rate, and I got on his health insurance plan (YES!). I think all that has made me feel more married than even the ceremony.

    We were going over our budget last night, re-working numbers so that he now pays the percentage he makes and vice versa (instead of splitting everything down the middle and keeping personal bills to ourselves). Very ineloquently, I remarked that it all made me feel "so... jointy. It's so weird! In a good way!"

    Btw, will you let us know if you get any helpful gleanings from the marriage course? There really wasn't anything great offered in our area, esp. something non-religious, so we settled for reading a few books. But I'm still curious what these types of courses have to offer.

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  3. I have switched my name over on everything except my credit cards and we are going in next week to combine our bank accounts. Scary stuff. It is so strange to be officially signing letters, e-mails, etc as Mrs. Beever. I keep forgetting when I call people from work to use my new last name :) But it is cool to see the official merging of the family. The one thing Mr Fix It does that always makes me feel like a family with him is call me 'wife.' It's silly, but he'll get home and say "Where's my wife?" Or he'll call me on the phone and say "Wife, I just wanted to say I love you." :)

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  4. Becoming Family. This is most definitely my favorite part of the whole experience.

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  5. I'm also in the LA area, and I've been wondering about marriage classes. We're both very non-religious, so this particular course wouldn't be our cup of tea, but in finding this one did you come across other (secular) classes that you thought looked good?

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  6. Woot, woot! Little things indeed.

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  7. @Christine - I don't actually know of any other local classes. This was recommended by friends and seemed perfect for us. However, 8 of the 10 sessions are entirely non-denominational (it's led by two Marriage & Family Therapists, not clergy). Only two of the sessions deal w/Judaism (in the home and in the wedding). Apparently, non-Jewish couples take this course too. I'll let everyone know how it goes as we work our way through it.

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  8. Woooooo! I think I really got that feeling the most when we had the spousal visa approved for Paddy. I was like, in the eyes of the government, we are an "us" now.

    Yay!

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  9. Yay!

    We are getting a family plan too!!!! Hooray for being completely independent of our parents! Haha!

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  10. agreed. i love the little mini unions leading up to the big one

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  11. I was SO sad when the census came around this year and we couldn't mark that we were members of one family yet :( Although it was fun to declare that there were 2 household members (after doing years of long-distance)!

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  12. agreed.

    i remember trembling when we went into chase to open our joint account.
    in my mind i was like... finally! all grown up!

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