The only things that have helped are Jason, who has supported my really challenging healing efforts, and our cats, who are treating my parents two-story house like a massive playground of awesome. Jason has run errands for me at 9pm when I had no energy, has shifted around our holiday weekend plans to support my needs, and has endured conversations about my weird body issues with humor and grace. The cats pounce on my feet as we come down the stairs (they really think we can't see them "hiding" on the bottom stair) and drop pieces of dry food in our shoes in an effort to play that usually entices me to tease them with strings and tummy rubs.
With everything that's going on, we're both taking time to process the Big Stuff I wrote about this week and more. And so, I wanted to end the week on a hopeful note about these questions, with a quote Jason sent me from Louis CK, a comedian who draws his materials from the real-life stress of having a family. He's talking about why he uses family for the source of his comedy:
"I mean, everything that's difficult, you should be able to laugh about. And the reason it's difficult to have a family is because it's important. I mean, if I didn't love my kids, is would be easy to raise them. But I love 'em, so you gotta do it the hard way. It's important to you, so you do it the hard way. It's important."But it was Jason's discussion of the quote that really made me glow with quiet joy and appreciation.
"I think that concept applies to marriage. Maintaining a strong marriage can be difficult, but we put in the effort because it's important. Living in the same house as someone is easy. Some people can "coast" in their marriage, and they might do OK for a while. But a really strong, solid partnership is hard. It takes work. But we do it because it matters to us, and we become better as a result. And to make the difficult parts a little easier, sometimes we have to laugh about it."We do. We truly do laugh about it and I've never had a better time with bad puns and third-grade bodily-function humor than during this week. And for those third-grade giggles, I am truly grateful.
I hope you all have a long weekend of giggles and joy. And to my blog friends getting married this weekend - Emilia Jane and KC - I wish you both beautiful weddings and a lifetime of laughter and joy through the good and bad times both.