I've been feeling a little zen lately about this wedding planning thing. Perhaps even a bit smug in my I-have-this-totally-under-control mode. Perhaps even excited that Jason is finally getting excited about the planning too, and I can finally start to share all of my fabulous ideas, hear about his, and and we can start to make all the big decisions (of the Important and Fun varieties).
Clearly, I was due for a comeuppance.
If I have learned anything from this morning's tiff, it's that talking about weddings before I've had my second cup of coffee or Jason's read the news is a bad idea. Right now you're probably feeling smug too, because of course it's a bad idea and you already knew that. Well, in theory I already knew that too. And in theory I was just forwarding todays' post from A Practical Wedding because it made for good put-it-in-context reading, and we're at the point in planning where we're trying to put it in context and cut away the fluff and stress. And I felt quite superior in realizing that I was already cutting away all sorts of fluff and potential stress. And then I decided to try and talk about the article - which he liked - before coffee and news.
Bad idea folks, bad idea. Somehow* we started talking about decor, which is silly and unimportant in the big picture, and about which we currently disagree. So we're implementing a new rule. If we find something awesome that excites us about weddings, we don't need to share it right away. Unlike when we see funny things online, or interesting news tidbits, or receive great emails, we do not need to share wedding articles, inspirations, or "what if" ideas right away. We can practice delayed gratification, file away the idea on our computer or in an email file labeled "wedding ideas," sit down like productive organized adults at designated wedding planning times, and discuss wedding ideas and tidbits in context of our overall hopes, goals, and priorities for the day. And not in fragments before my coffee has kicked in. Nothing, in fact, should be discussed before my coffee kicks in.
Lesson learned. Comeuppance earned. Moving on and forward.
*somehow might have been due to my overeagerness in pointing out that my decor approach was reflected in Meg's post. His is not (necessarily, though he's done less comprehensive thinking about wedding fluffery than I have). Hence, the really bad idea to discuss.