Thursday, September 10, 2009

An Inconvenient Tumor

I'm on my lunchbreak, trying to hold it together, because I stumbled across this LAist post, which outlines every reason I want to get married to J and everything that love really is.  Neither of us are strangers to how illness impacts a family and marriage, which is one of the reasons I trust him to know the full meaning of "in sickness and health" and to know how to consistently find love and strength together, regardless of what life throws at us. Christine and Bryan's story confirms everything about the underpinnings of love, commitment, and life as a partnership.

Christine and Bryan both got laid off when the economy tumbled.  Almost immediately afterwards, Bryan found out he had a brain tumor, just three months before their wedding.  Their story about fighting the tumor and getting married is life-affirming and heart-breaking and everything in between.  Here's just a snippet of Christine's own words from photographer Anna Kuperberg's blog:
"Right before our wedding, people would ask Bryan and me the same type of question over and over. "Are you nervous?" "Are you scared?" "Are you freaked out about getting married?"

These questions surprised us, because given the fact that Bryan and I had faced one of the toughest challenges a couple can go through – namely, Bryan's diagnosis of an inoperable brain tumor – we were not nervous. We were not scared. We were not freaked out. On the contrary, we couldn't wait. We knew, without a shadow of a doubt, that we were brought together nearly three years ago as soulmates who would be faced with a seemingly insurmountable challenge. We couldn't wait, after six weeks of intense radiation and chemotherapy, to celebrate together and finally become husband and wife. Because the truth of the matter is, Bryan and I were already married. Not in the legal sense, but in a spiritual, emotional and intellectual sense. We felt, in the best way possible, as though we were celebrating our 50th wedding anniversary rather than the beginning of our lives together. Simply put, a couple doesn't go through something as devastating as a brain tumor diagnosis (not to mention treatment) and come out of it nervous to get married. Instead, they come out of it with a foundation of marriage more solid than a rock. In Bryan's and my case, there wasn't a sentence we couldn't finish for each other, a feeling or look we couldn't immediately recognize, or a silence that didn't speak volumes."
Please go read more in their LAist profile today, or at Anna Kuperberg's blog, or at Chistine Bishop's own website about the entire experience and journey, An Inconvenient Tumor.

1 comment:

  1. wow. yep- that was some powerful message.

    and a nice sanity check- please keep these up... i totally needed that today...


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